3 Week Online Course, beginning Wednesday 13th September 2023
Do you find it hard to say no to things that do not serve you?
You take on too much at work, in the home and in your relationships? Perhaps you overcommit socially – saying yes to activities that you are not that interested in or cannot afford. You frequently feel exhausted from over giving or extending yourself.
When you finally do manage to say no, you feel icky or off about it? You may feel intense shame or guilt around saying no and worry that you are letting people down. Perhaps your heart races, you feel nauseous or numb. You become overly preoccupied with thoughts of how others will respond.
You may find that your no is not respected by others. They do not seem to take on board the words that you are saying. You find yourself backing down and returning to habits of pleasing or you eventually blow up, quit projects, or cut people out of your life, as this feels like the only way to get your message across.
If these types of habits have been running for a long time, you may find that you have become so sensitised to pleasing that you no longer have a clear sense of self; what you truly like, dislike and need. This makes it incredibly challenging to identify what is a yes and what is a no.
These patterns can leave you feeling powerless and exhausted. It may be impacting your physical health, or you could be feeling resentment in your personal and professional relationships.
If any of the above resonates, please know that you are not alone. Pleasing others at the expense of your own needs is a common self-protective mechanism that has gone awry. It offers a sense of safety through acceptance. In some cases, it pacifies threat. Pleasing can give us power when we are extremely fearful of conflict or if we are in an unequal power dynamic or perceive this to be the case.
It is also a habit that CAN be changed through kind, compassionate self-inquiry, nervous system support, mindset work and powerful embodiment practices.
In this 3 week course, you will be guided through a deep dive into finding and communicating your no with confidence. We will work on reducing unnecessary distress in declining what is not for you. You will learn how to deliver kind yet firm no’s that respect both yourself and others.
You will come away with a powerful framework and set of practices to support you in identifying, delivering, enforcing and feeling good about your no’s in a friendly, supportive, group coaching experience.
As a recovering people pleaser and over-doer, I can wholeheartedly say that this work is profound. When we state and enforce our no’s we honour our energy levels and our yesses – how we truly want to live, relate, and show up in the world. This is powerful stuff. It frees up so much energy that was previously spent on activities that were not supportive of our true selves. Energy that was being used to suppress our needs or take on the responsibility of the perceived thoughts and opinions of others.
This course is the toolkit, I wish I had at my disposal 10 years ago. I would love to share these lessons with you and support you in implementing lasting change in your own life.
- This is a 3 part, online course, beginning on Wednesday 13th September 2023.
- Each week there will be a live call on the Wednesday (18.30 UK time). The fist two calls will be 60 mins (on Wednesday 13th and 20th September), the 3rd will run for 90 mins (Wednesday 27th September).
- You can attend each call live or watch the recording in your own time. All recordings will be available for the duration of the course and 6 weeks after, so that you have time to work through, implement and digest the content at your own pace.
- Each call will be a mixture of education and group coaching exercises. There will be time to ask Amy questions, share experiences and practise working with the tools offered in small peer groups.
- The investment is £105 GBP per participant
Who is this course for?
Anyone over the age of 18, that would like support in identifying, expressing and enforcing their no in a way that does not feel awful to them.
When do the live calls take place?
Wednesday 13th September – 18.30 – 19.30 UK time
Wednesday 20th September – 18.30 – 19.30 UK time
Wednesday 27th September – 18.30 – 20.00 UK time
Do I need to attend each session live?
The choice is yours. Attend the live calls, watch in your own time or do a mixture to best suit your schedule and energy levels. Content will be available for 6 weeks following the course. Breakout rooms will be offered for peer exercises in the live calls, which are optional and not recorded.
Is this course suitable for me, if I have an energy limiting condition?
Yes but do reach out, if you have specific concerns. You can attend as little of each session as feels right for you. You will be encouraged to take breaks. My work is trauma informed. No music or bright, flashing lights or colours will be used. You can turn off your camera.
What is your refund policy?
All sales are final. Participants will have access to the course content for the duration of the course and 6 weeks after, should you not be able to make a live session. If you have any questions about whether the course is for you do reach out to Amy for a chat before purchasing.
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